BOO! I’m not a ghost.. You’re crazy.
As I sit down to write about ghosting and gaslighting, I can’t help but reflect on my own experiences with these toxic relationship dynamics. What began as hopeful connections quickly turned into painful lessons in manipulation and deceit. In sharing my story, I hope to shed light on the realities of ghosting and gaslighting and offer support to others who may be grappling with similar challenges.
Ghosting isn’t just about unanswered texts or missed calls; it’s about the sudden and inexplicable disappearance of someone you thought you knew. I remember the sinking feeling in my stomach when I realized that the person I had invested time and emotions in had vanished without a trace. The silence was deafening, leaving me with a whirlwind of unanswered questions and self-doubt.
The aftermath of being ghosted left me grappling with feelings of rejection and abandonment. I questioned my worth and replayed our interactions in my mind, searching for clues or signs that I had missed. It took time and self-reflection to recognize that ghosting says more about the other person’s inability to communicate than it does about my value as an individual.
Gaslighting crept into my life more insidiously, disguised as concern and care. It began with subtle contradictions and denials, making me second-guess my own perceptions and reality. Over time, the gaslighting intensified, eroding my confidence and leaving me feeling like I was losing my grip on sanity.
Gaslighting left me feeling powerless and trapped in a web of deceit. I doubted my instincts and constantly sought validation from the very person who was undermining my sense of self. It wasn’t until I sought outside perspective and support that I began to unravel the gaslighting tactics and reclaim my truth.
Being in recovery from the wounds of ghosting and gaslighting hasn’t been easy, but it’s been essential for my healing journey. I am learning to set boundaries, trust my intuition, and prioritize my well-being in all my relationships. While the scars may still linger, they serve as reminders of my resilience and strength.
To anyone who has experienced ghosting or gaslighting, know that you are not alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can offer support and validation. Remember that you deserve love, respect, and honesty in all your relationships, and don’t settle for anything less.
Ghosting and gaslighting are painful. But they do not define our worth or dictate our future. By sharing our stories and supporting one another, we can navigate the complexities of love and connection with greater awareness and resilience. May we all find healing, empowerment, and authentic connections on our journey forward.
The Dish by Deni 